September 28, 2008
· Filed under marriage · Tagged bad relationship, benefit from marriage, friendships, Marriage counseling, marriages, relationships, sadness, tension, worry
Most marriages and other relationships aren’t perfect. Each person brings his or her own ideas, values, opinions and personal history into a relationship, and they don’t always match their partner’s. Those differences don’t necessarily mean your relationship is bound for conflict. To the contrary, differences can be complementary — you know the saying about opposites attracting. These differences can also help people understand, respect and accept opposing views and cultures.
But relationships can be tested. Differences or habits that you once found endearing may grate on your nerves after time together. Sometimes specific issues, such as an extramarital affair or loss of sexual attraction, trigger problems in a relationship. Other times, there’s a gradual disintegration of communication and caring.
No matter the cause, distress in a relationship can create undue stress, tension, sadness, worry, fear and other problems. You may hope your relationship troubles just go away on their own. But left to fester, a bad relationship may only worsen and eventually lead to physical or psychological problems, such as depression. A bad relationship can also create problems on the job and affect other family members or even friendships as people feel compelled to take sides.
September 28, 2008
· Filed under marriage · Tagged anger, communication problems, couples, couples counseling, heal wounds, Illness, infidelity, marriage, Marriage counseling, marriages, relationships, sex, wedding
Illness, infidelity, sex, anger, communication problems — all can contribute to distress in marriages or other relationships. Marriage counseling or couples counseling can help resolve conflicts and heal wounds.
Your partner comes home from work, makes a beeline for the liquor cabinet and then sulks off silently. You haven’t had a real conversation for weeks. A few arguments over money or late nights out, sure, but no heart-to-hearts. Sex? What’s that?
Your relationship is on the rocks, and you both know it. But you aren’t sure how to fix things — or if you really want to.
It may be time for marriage counseling. Marriage counseling can help you rebuild your relationship. Or decide that you’ll both be better off if you split up. Either way, marriage counseling can help you understand your relationship better and make well-thought-out decisions.
What is marriage counseling?
Marriage counseling, also called couples therapy, helps couples — married or not — understand and resolve conflicts and improve their relationship. Marriage counseling gives couples the tools to communicate better, negotiate differences, problem solve and even argue in a healthier way.
Marriage counseling is generally provided by licensed therapists known as marriage and family therapists. These therapists provide the same mental health services as other therapists, but with a specific focus — a couple’s relationship.
Marriage counseling is often short term. You may need only a few sessions to help you weather a crisis. Or you may need marriage counseling for several months, particularly if your relationship has greatly deteriorated. As with individual psychotherapy, you typically see a marriage counselor once a week.
September 28, 2008
· Filed under marriage · Tagged bride, groom, life partner, marriage, marriages, matrimonials, Sikh matrimonials, wedding, wedding processions
LEADERS of Delhi’s Sikh community have called for an end to lavish weddings featuring meat and alcohol on the grounds they encourage the dowry system and female feticide.
The Delhi Gurdwara Management Committee, the city’s top Sikh body, has told the capital’s one million Sikhs to boycott weddings that are not teetotal, vegetarian and over by noon.
Similar measures are being considered in other Indian cities.
Sikhs are supposed to avoid unnecessary expenditure, but their weddings have become increasingly ostentatious in recent years. Many last for days, beginning with the groom’s procession to the bride’s home and culminating in a banquet and dancing into the night.
The committee has ordered Delhi’s 350 gurdwaras (Sikh temples) not to issue wedding certificates to families who ignore its guidelines. Those who hold wedding processions in the evening will not be allowed to marry in a gurdwara.
“Our fight is against the exploitation by those who pose demands on the girl’s family to organise elaborate weddings,” committee president Paramjit Singh Sarna said. “It is this splurge of wealth on ceremonies which is promoting dowry and practices like female feticide.”
Although it is technically illegal to demand a dowry, most Indians ignore the ban.
The bride’s family is expected to pay for a sumptuous wedding and give the groom’s family cash and gifts. As a result, daughters are traditionally seen as a financial burden and many Indians kill newborn girls or abort female fetuses.
The Indian Medical Association says about five million female fetuses are terminated every year.
September 28, 2008
· Filed under Relationship · Tagged In-Law Relationships, life partner, marriage, matrimonials, Relationship, relationships, wedding
Many couples talk about important issues before they marry: how many children they want, where they’ll live and how they’ll handle their finances. But there’s one problem that couples rarely address—in-laws.
Hollywood has made a joke out of in-law problems by poking fun at the havoc negative parental relations can wreak on a relationship. But it’s no laughing matter when it’s part of your story. It can create marital problems that you didn’t anticipate and negative patterns of relating with your new parents that can last for years.
If this describes you, you may have tried many tactics that have proved ineffective, such as yelling, screaming , manipulating or remaining silent. Perhaps you are now at the end of your rope and want to hang someone with it. We have suggestions that we think you’ll find to be a little more positive.
You can’t change your in-laws, but you are able to change yourself, and that will make a world of difference. It can enhance your marriage and ease the frustration that has been eating at you for long enough.
