November 28, 2008
· Filed under Relationship · Tagged healthy boundaries, life partner, partner, partner relationship, relatioinship, sensuality, sexuality, team mates
A successful relationship is all about understanding each other. Listed below are eight key essentials in creating healthy and fulfiling relationships. Read each question and reflect on your current satisfaction in each of these areas. Objectivity is the key to this quiz.
Rate each question on a scale from 0 to 10 as per the following instructions:
8-10:
Good – This area of my relationship is strong, fulfiling and healthy.
5-7:
Fair – This area of my relationship needs some attention and enhancement.
Rate the following statements:
My partner and I understand each other’s feelings, thoughts and motives. We are able to “step into each other’s shoes” and show each other we understand where they are coming from, especially during disagreements.
My partner and I focus on and express our appreciation for the many gifts we each bring to the relationship, on a daily basis.
My partner and I have realistic and healthy expectations of relationships and sexuality. We can recognise and change our self-defeating and unhealthy beliefs that may be negatively impacting our relationship.
My partner and I have and express love for each other. We are able to express emotions in healthy and healing ways within our relationship.
My partner and I bring positive energy to our relationship. There is a sense of lightness versus being rigid in our relationship.
My partner and I are committed to our relationship even through difficult times. We are both flexible and willing to work on our relationship when needed (even if that means both of us making individual changes to benefit the relationship).
My partner and I feel safe and comfortable enough to explore, discuss and express our sexuality and sensuality with each other. Now add up your score.
Here’s how to interpret your score:My partner and I really know and like each other. We enjoy being together and consider each other best friends as well as team-mates in our relationship. We also respect each other and have healthy
boundaries in our relationship.
0-4:
Poor – There is little satisfaction in this area of my relationship.
Relationship, Healty Partner
64 – 80:
Congratulations! Your relationship has many of the healthy key components. However, it could still benefit from enhancing some of these areas. You now have the opportunity to focus on these areas and make your relationship even better!
40 – 63:
Your relationship could benefit from continued work on some of the concerned areas. Take time out with your partner to address and enhance these areas of concern.
Below 40:
Please take some time to focus and work on your problem areas with your partner to build a fulfiling and healthy relationship. You could also contact a marriage counsellor if you and your partner feel you need help with the same.
September 28, 2008
· Filed under Relationship · Tagged In-Law Relationships, life partner, marriage, matrimonials, Relationship, relationships, wedding
Many couples talk about important issues before they marry: how many children they want, where they’ll live and how they’ll handle their finances. But there’s one problem that couples rarely address—in-laws.
Hollywood has made a joke out of in-law problems by poking fun at the havoc negative parental relations can wreak on a relationship. But it’s no laughing matter when it’s part of your story. It can create marital problems that you didn’t anticipate and negative patterns of relating with your new parents that can last for years.
If this describes you, you may have tried many tactics that have proved ineffective, such as yelling, screaming , manipulating or remaining silent. Perhaps you are now at the end of your rope and want to hang someone with it. We have suggestions that we think you’ll find to be a little more positive.
You can’t change your in-laws, but you are able to change yourself, and that will make a world of difference. It can enhance your marriage and ease the frustration that has been eating at you for long enough.
